You just had the most amazing day of your life, congratulations! Now the guests have traveled home, your wedding attire sent off for cleaning, and you’re married to the love of your life! You should be happy, right? Most likely you are, but there may be a little twing of sadness in your heart that you didn’t expect.

That’s called the post-wedding blues and they are 100% OKAY.

Post-wedding blues may be brought on by a number of reasons. Maybe something went wrong that you weren’t expecting. Maybe a loved one wasn’t able to attend. Maybe you regret a few choices you made. Or maybe everything went absolutely perfect and it was magical and now you’re just sad. It is okay and it happens. It actually happens to a lot of people. Imagine building one single day up in your mind for months or even years and working so hard on that one day. The day comes, it’s the best day ever, and then it’s done. All that buildup and anticipation comes crashing down, kind of like adrenaline. Before you know it, all that work and excitement is over and you have to get back to real life. That can be hard to deal with and it is very natural to be sad that it is over.

The worst part about wedding blues is that you probably feel so bad about having them. You’re thinking: I just had the best wedding day surrounded by my closest loved ones and now I’m married to the love of my life. I should be happy. Why am I not happy? What is wrong with me? I’ll tell you as a wedding professional and post-wedding blues survivor myself, nothing is wrong with you and you should NOT feel guilty for feeling this way. You are valid for being sad that this big day is over, why wouldn’t you be?

Here are a couple ways you can combat your post-wedding blues:

1: Plan several dates for after your wedding.

Now that you’re married doesn’t mean you have to stop dating! Plan some fun dates for after your wedding to keep that fun alive! Or even better, plan a monthly or weekly date night to get them on the schedule.

2: Focus on your honeymoon.

If you’re going on a honeymoon, either right after your wedding or some time down the road, focus on that! Finish any planning that needs done and share how excited you are for your honeymoon with your partner.

3: Give yourself something new to plan and be excited about.

If you aren’t going on a honeymoon, find something else fun that you can focus on and be excited about! Maybe redo a room in your house or start a new hobby. Something has to fill all that time you spent wedding planning!

4: Give yourself grace and love knowing that this is normal.

Even if you do all these tips or none of them, you may still feel that little bit of sadness in your heart. Share your feelings with your new spouse and talk it out with them. Know that this too shall pass, take some time for self care, and love yourself through it. You got this!